What Is Emotional Intelligence?

Emotional Intelligence is a type of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' emotions, and to discern and use the information to guide one's thinking and actions.

Five Elements of Emotional Intelligence are:

1. Self Awareness
2. Managing Emotions
3. Motivating Oneself
4. Empathy
5. Handling Relationships

Why it is Important? Because "Soft Skills" can actually produce "Hard Outcomes".

Let It Be / Let It Go

Did you get the idea what I am talking about?

It has been awhile since my last post. I have been busy running my family a.k.a 'CEO of my family'. What a CEO? If you thought me, lacks of leadership and management experience, let me share it with you something. Being a father and a husband, is like running a small company. In other word, you have to 'govern' your family members (bottom line, operations, planning, etc). It can contributes to headache and hypertension. However, in order to minimise the effect, I always consider it as 'Challenging and Stimulating'. Kind of my 'Transformation Vocabulary'.

Headache - Challenging
Hypertension - Stimulating

Recently, I was in KL where I accidently met an old friend of mine. He gained weight, from 65kg to 89kg. Kind of 'Marriage Transformation'. Surprising enough for me, the weight issue always related for me and my old friend when we met. He asked, 'You didn't gain any weight after marriage, what's your secret? 'I love my family', that was my short answered. 'Please elaborate', he asked again (kind of headhunter or manager follow-up question during an interview for job promotion :P). 'Well, the bigger my waistline, the higher the risk for me to get diabetes, coronory attack etc. I don't want to spend my time at the hospital or regularly meeting with the medical practitioner. Regularly visit to the medical practitioner means 'expenditure' and I don't want to bring pain to my family', I answered his question again.

'You are right, but it is difficult to reduce weight but it is easy to gain weight', he smiled. I replied,' Well, it depends on you personal motivation. As for me, my motivation is that 10 years from now I want to be, at my children's wedding, in a good shape and without health support devices. So,  I eliminate all the excuses and I take actions - I exercise regularly plus I stay away from negative people'.

p/s Did you get the idea what I am talking about?

My Book Is Available

I received SMSes from my favourite bookstore informing me that my ordered book already available. Hmm what I like with the megastore is that their workers attitude - more professional than the small bookstore. Apart from that their staff, more prettier that the small one (muka pecah rumah and bloody sombong). He He He. I just been sincere here, don't take it personally.

Since today is Sunday in Malaysia, I am intent to collect the book. My plan is to commute by ERL to KL Sentral and take LRT to KLCC. Taking about KLCC, I love KLCC. It's "refreshing".

My Birthday Gift ---- Worth My Time

I find it amazing that I can be 35 years old and seem to know less every day. No matter how much you learn, it just continues to open up more substantial questions and relationships.

A relative of mine gave me a new handphone for my birthday. And to her surprised, I refused to accept the gift. I said:"I just want a book for my birthday. Perhap you could buy me or order me this book for me. The title is - An Engineer's Alphabet: Gleanings from the Softer Side of a Profession from Henry Petroski.

Why do you think I can't accept her gift? Handphone? Well, I like reading books. Worth my time.

Handphone, for me it just a tool. Book .. well book is knowledge and knowledge is vital. Reading book is like reading the writer's mind, values and philosophy. By the way, book never lies :P

------ "BIAR RASO" ------

Personally, I love my 9 to 5 job. Why? Its stable. What if my family member ask me to "quit" my job and do business?

Here are my answers:

1. Overseas

2. Fast food restaurant

3. Apply food and money from charity

4. Anti-social (What's the benefit of me knowing you?)

Well, siapa yang rugi? Mereka dengan keluarga mereka. Padan dengan muka. "Biar Raso"

Boot Camp Exercises Part 2

Hmm boot camp exercises or Anger Management Course Ni? Well whatever..

Hans suggested reading this week "Surely You're Joking Mr. Feynman". For the review of the book.. belum baca lagi laaa. Just bought it yesterday.

Boot Camp Exercises Part 1

Title: Remove Sand from point A to point B

Time: 1 hour

Distance: 10 meters

Target Area (s):

Biceps

Triceps

Shoulder

Chest

Abs

Calfs

Items:

Wheelbarrow

Shovel

End Result (s):

Burn Your Body Fat

More Muscular

---- Life Is A Business ----

Did you know that your life is a business. You probably think that I am kidding you. Perhaps,I should give you one example

Example:

Let say that you and your spouse or partner want to have lunch. After 5 to 10 minutes discussion, you and your partner decided that you are going to have McD. KEYWORDS: DISCUSSION, DECIDED

Then, both of you arrived at McD. At the McD your partner ordered BMaC, while you on the other hand decided to have HCakes. After finished ordering, you partner asked you to pay whiles you, however, negotiating by asking your partner to pay. KEYWORDS: ORDERED, DECIDED, PAY, NEGOTIATING.

Since inclusive, both of you then decided to leave the premises with empty stomachs. KEYWORDS: DECIDED, PREMISES

Let us forget the non-happy ending of my story here; however, let us analyses the keywords

DISCUSSION

DECIDED

ORDERED

PAY

NEGOTIATING

PREMISES

Now did you get the idea that your life is a business? If you want to leave a comment, please comment on the subject matter and not on my English proficiency. Unless you are Certified English Teacher from Cambridge or Oxford (He He He don't take it too personal)

Home Safety & Security - DIY

Add value

House Improvement - DIY

What do you think of Home Improvement - DIY in Malaysia?

For most Malaysian

STINGY

For Expat

LABOUR is EXPENSIVE

For Me

Let me give you an example here:

Tiling the house floor - RM3K

Outsourcing

Tiles - RM1K

Labour - RM1.5K

Materials - RM0.5K

Total = RM3K

However,

DIY

Tiles - RM1K

DIY - RM0.1K

Materials - RM0.5K

Total = RM1.6K

Let us compare between outsourcing and DIY, I already save RM1.4K.

So it means a new blackberry playbook (add value) for me for this Eid Ul Fitri.

Ha Ha Ha !!!

p/s: Value for money or I am taking control of my own financial?

---- Joquin Hans Torress ----

Learning my sixth language. Add value or added value?

----- Lesson Learnt - The Story of Qabil and Habil -----

Truth be told ... an old adage in business, never do business with family, friends or relatives without black and white. Why? People tends to be 'GREEDY'. You get the idea.

p/s

Lesson learnt by reading Quran - The story of Qabil and Habil

------ Liverpool FC ---------

"That's what good football clubs do - they replace their best players. Liverpool needs a new Steven Gerrard and it will need a new Jamie Carragher. I saw Jordan at first hand for two or three days with England and he is a good player with energy. '

Steven Gerrard

Me and my facebook friends

Yup, I just deleted my negative friends in my facebook. Full of negative energies. At this 'trying times', the best thing to do is to stay away from negative friends.

Case Study 3: The Story Of An Experienced Woodchopper

An experienced woodchopper searching for work in the barren desert won't find work as a woodchopper. He has the ability and the desire, but he's not in the right place. The woodchopper should enlare his search area. It's impractical to look for work nearby.

The woodchopper, for example, may be so happy living in the desert and he doesn't want to move away. When he attempts to convince the person who is hiring woodchoppers in a neighboring state that he's the man for the job, he's not convincing about wanting the job - probably because he's not convinced himself.

If the woodchopper decided to move away from the desert so he could earn a living while he prepared for a career that offered gainful employment, he might feel differently. He'd look upon this 'out-of-town' job as a means to an end and want to be hired.

The rest of the story ... again, you do the math.

You Don't Have To Be A Rocket Scientist ..

To understand these:

• A stable career means a stable family
• A steady career means a steady family

The rest, you do the math.

------ Career -----

Career is defined by the Oxford English Dictionary as a person's course or progress through life ( or a distinct portion of life ). It is usually considered to pertain to remunerative work ( and sometimes also formal education ).

Source: wikipedia

Morale:

I want a career. The end.

Case Study 2 - No-Brainer

SME - Small Medium Enterprise

Please type - "Corporate Mortality Rate"

Thank you for being no-brainer like me.

Case Study 1 - Spoon Feed

Why FDI?

FDI - Foreign Direct Investment = "Employees Market"

What is the meaning of "Employees Market"

Type google - Spoon Feed

Why DDI?

DDI - Domestic Direct Investment = "Employers Market"

What is the meaning of "Employers Market"

Type google - Spoon Feed

Conclusion:

LOGIC or COMMON SENSE